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Dear pan and ace people,

Fckh8 have said they’re going to bring out products for pan and ace people in light of this summer’s giant fuckup.


FCKH8 have a long history of being a horrible organisation, focussed solely on cis gays and lesbians (and maybe bisexuals sometimes too). Check out http://stopfckh8.tumblr.com for info on lots of the shit they’ve done.

They aren’t creating these products because they suddenly care about pan and ace people. They’ve just seen that there’s a market for this stuff, and what FCKH8 cares about isn’t LGBTQ+ people, it’s money.

Please don’t fund this horrible, for-profit company. They don’t truly care about LGBTQ+ people, and they don’t deserve our support.

Anonymous said:
I'm new to the community. Anything I need to know?


really quick Asexual 101


  • asexuality = no sexual attraction. that’s literally it
  • ace: shortened form of asexual; like how bisexuals are bi, we are 'ace'
  • asexuality is a spectrum, and gray-asexual and demisexual are valid identities that fall on the ace spectrum
  • allosexual: a person who experiences sexual attraction, i.e. someone who is straight or gay or bi
  • asexy: an ace term to describe something nice-looking but without the sexual implications of the word ‘sexy’


  • colors are black, gray, white, and purple
  • tumblr is being cranky and won’t let me use a pic but the flag is four horizontal stripes of black, gray, white, and purple descending in that order
  • black ring worn on the middle finger of either hand
  • ace of spades = aromantic asexual; ace of hearts = alloromantic asexual; ace of clubs = gray-asexual; ace of diamonds = demisexual
  • cake: a community in-joke is that we are obsessed with cake, because cake>sex


  • don’t tell people how to identify; there is no One True Way to be asexual and behavior =/= orientation
  • don’t throw people who fit stereotypes under the bus


  • do encourage varied representation of asexuals and show the world that there is no One True Way to be asexual
  • do look out for your fellow asexuals; it’s a harsh world out there and we’ve got to support each other


  • acephobia: discrimination against asexual people
  • allosexism: assertion that it is better or more valid to be allosexual than asexual
  • amatonormativity: assertion that monogamous romantic relationships are more valuable than other types of relationships
  • sex-disinterested: not being interested in sex/sexual things
  • sex-repulsed: being repulsed by sex/sexual things; note: sex-repulsion and disinterest can occur in varying degrees


  • don’t be afraid to ask questions as long as you do so respectfully
  • welcome to the club!!!

~Mod Q




What if Charlie Weasley is asexual? Like what if when his brothers were going through puberty and getting crushes on girls and just obsessing over them, Charlie was just like, “Guys. DRAGONS.”

J.K. Rowling confirms it here.


Lesbians apparently have that jacket 

Gays have that two toned shirt 

Can Aces get trench coats?



Pride Shield Giveaway!


  1. One first place winner gets: one shirt in their choice of design and color (excludes sweatshirts and hoodies - see styles and colors here); 5 stickers of their choice (any combination); a Funko POP! Black Widow bobble-head figure (if the winner does not want this item, they can gift it down to the second place winner)
  2. One second place winner place gets: one shirt in their choice of design and color (excludes sweatshirts and hoodies - see styles and colors here); 5 stickers of their choice (any combination)
  3. Three third place winners get: 5 stickers of their choice (any combination)


  • You are not required to be following my blog
  • One entry per user will be counted
  • A like and/or reblog constitutes an entry
  • If you want to reblog this post but not enter the giveaway, please note or tag it so I will exclude you from the drawing
  • International entries accepted, with items shipping from the US
  • Winners will be notified via private Ask so please have your Ask option turned on

Giveaway ends 11:59pm CST, 10 October 2014, after which the winners will be randomly selected.  Entries after that time will not be counted.  Once winners have been privately notified, they will have one week to respond before new winners will be selected in their stead.


My ace pride includes disabled aces.
My ace pride includes asexual abuse survivors.
My ace pride includes aromantic people.
My ace pride includes sex-repulsed and celibate aces.

My ace pride doesn’t encourage aces to “compromise” in romantic relationships by agreeing to sex.
My ace pride doesn’t present this “compromise” as something non-aces can reasonably expect or ask for from ace partners.
My ace pride doesn’t prioritize the able-bodied, the romantic, or the sane.


what’s an asexual’s favorite color?



I’m so tired of 
"All people [insert something about sex]"
and just sitting here like
"Fuck you, I’m asexual."

raise your hand if you confused aesthetic attraction with sexual attraction when trying to find out if you were asexual/demisexual/grey-a



Where the asexuals at???? I need to converse with you.

You rang?